Papa is a home body. He likes to be home and could stay in the same fleece pants and hoodie for days and not go crazy.
When we married, we definitely did more of the going and traveling then being home bodies. We took weekend trips whenever we could and had regular nights out. When Tater came along, we just put her in our pockets and took her everywhere with us. We planned weekend trips around area zoos and educational attractions.
People often ask me, "what was it like going from one to four?" Honestly the extra clothes, laundry, toys, food, etc we kinda planned for. We saw that as part of the cute little packages. However, being 'grounded' and stuck at home was something I did not foresee nor did I foresee it bothering me so.
You would think this would not be a big deal. It would seem that the way Papa and I are wired, we would be the perfect match. He would stay home with the kids and I would be free to run all the errands I need. Well, our three little additions have other plans.
It amazes me how much they need MY attention. I don't see myself as being overly nurturing as empathy is not generally one of my spiritual gifts. However, they are so void of 'the mommy factor', that even I will do.
That proves to me how grand our job as mothers is. And at this we do not need to pit working mother against stay at home mother. For no matter what your situation, choice, or calling is....YOU ARE THE MOMMA!
I wish I could teach a sex ed course to young women. It would be a lot less about the biology of the matter and their sexuality and a lot more about the emotional and nurturing responsibilities that they will have to a child. I think I would start like this 'they aren't going to be like a puppy you know, you can't just feed them, bathe them, and clean up their poop.' You have to put down your phone and look at them. You have to talk to them and teach them about things and how to be the person God has for them to be.
So I wrap this post up being completely humbled by the fact that my job as mommy is so important, and amazed that God has given me four gifts and four chances to share His message of love and redemption to the world through my children.
Funny kiddo moment of the week:
On Saturday, I attended a baby shower for a friend from church. Upon leaving the house BB and LB were very interested in who the presents were for. I explained that I was going to a baby shower and the gifts were for the new baby. Both boys seemed to except that answer. However, later when I returned, they seemed confused as to where the presents went. I told them I gave them to Ms. T for her baby. BB asked if I got to see the baby and watch them give the baby a shower. I explained that the baby was still in Ms. T`s tummy so I did not see the baby and a baby shower is a party for a momma that is going to have a baby. At this point, LB's eyes were open wide. "Mommy! If the baby is still in Ms. T's belly, how did you get the presents in there too?" I love his innocence and I loved hearing Tater patiently explain to him how baby showers and the whole system works. :)
